Fear, Guilt, and Anger

Word Definitions and Meaning

What is:
fear (and its word-field: alarm, dread, qualm, worry, panic, horror, phobia, paranoia, and terror)
guilt (and shame), anger (with wrath and fury)?

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What Is Fear?

fear [ < Old English færan (to terrify, ambush, surprise)] Definition: A strong emotion due to foreseeing or becoming aware of danger; the reason or cause of such strong emotion.

At its best, fear helps you protect yourself, and helps to remind you that you don't have control over everything in your life (and never will). At its worst, fear can turn you into a murderous bigot or a quivering coward. A person can create fear in someone else, for vengeance or control. Demagogues tell a story of perilous fear. Great leaders get us to reach beyond fear, even beyond hope, to a future built on a love that is beyond just us and far greater than all fear. Fear can shrink the soul more than anything else except powerlust. There are many kinds of fear:

sudden fear (alarm).
strong desire not to do something (dread). (Like, say, homework.)
fear of doing something against one's conscience or better judgment (qualm).
fear of unfavorable results (worry). (Worry switches attention from taking action to thinking about the chance of failure, which in turn heightens the chance of failure.)
brief but strong loss of composure (panic).
fear that causes immediate physical reaction (horror). (This is what's sought after at Halloween or in some movies.)
fear of one specific thing beyond reason (phobia).
irrational fear that people are out to do you harm (paranoia). (They're not all out to get you. Honest.)
the surrender to extreme fear (terror). (A terrorist is someone who seeks to control a situation by putting other people into terror.)

Fear Not!

Jesus is several times recorded as saying, "Fear not". It's also one of the traditional messages of the angels. Psalm 23 says "I shall fear no evil, for Thou art with me". Fears that are turned over to God will be muted or harnessed, or will go away. Instead of fearing the darkness, seek the light. Go against God, and there is no reason not to be in terror, except perhaps for God's unfathomable mercy.

When you stop trying to be in control and let God be in control, there is no cause for fear, for the One in Control loves you and seeks the best for you. Trust in God's love casts out fear. When you stop fearing your neighbor, it opens you up to the possibility of loving them - but it's not the same thing as actually loving them.

"Fear is that little darkroom where negatives are developed."
Michael Pritchard

"Courage is fear that has said its prayers."
Dorothy Bernard

"Fear God, yes, but don't be afraid of Him."
J.A. Spender, *The Comments of Bagshot*

"Courage is not the absence of fear, but rather the judgement that something else is more important than fear."
Ambrose Redmoon

No need to dread checking the dictionary to define fear.

What Is Guilt?

guilt [ Old English gylt (crime, criminality) ] Definition: When you've done something wrong, in the past or present. Also, the frame of mind and the emotions which spring from thinking you've done something wrong, whether it is actually so or not.

There are at least two forms of guilt that affect us:

forensic guilt, like that found in criminal courts. This is based squarely on factual matters: "So-and-so has been shown to be the one who did a certain thing." This is often followed by some form of penalty or censure. This kind of guilt has been shown, in scientific studies, to sometimes create powerful changes in a person's behavior.
psychological guilt, which is the effect of some action of yours on how you think about yourself. Other related words are blame, shame, fault, and onus. The churches, over the years, have created this kind of guilt inside of many believers, by treating those who did wrong as if they were without value.

On the one hand, there is no way to turn away from wrongs or to reconcile without realizing that it was wrong, that the wrong matters in some way, and feeling the wrongness of it enough to want to turn away from it and make up for it somehow. On the other hand:

Having psychological guilt doesn't always lead to a turning away from your wrongs. Sometimes it leads to defensiveness, excuses, and evasions in order to escape the consequences of your wrongs. This happens when you either greatly fear the consequences, or value yourself so greatly that you think you ought to be able to operate above having any consequences from it.
Psychological guilt can turn into shame, which in turn can weigh you down, get you depressed, and cause you to hold yourself back from life's challenges. The difference is that guilt is about one's actions, while shame is about one's value. Guilt is about the deed; shame is about the doer. The two run on a continuum: the more often someone does things which produce unaddressed guilty feelings, the less that person will think they're worth to anyone. (That is, thinking that someone who does a lot of bad things must really be bad.)
Whenever there are strong feelings that affect behavior, there is the likelihood of being manipulated by others. (Which, when discovered, makes you feel more guilt.)
Guilt is often an excuse for not allowing yourself to be forgiven, an excuse for punishing yourself instead of fixing yourself, or for staying apart instead of reconciling.

That's where what Jesus did can give such release: "neither do I condemn you. Go, and sin no more." Since God does not condemn you, you're free to enjoy what God has given you. You're free from having to let guilt or shame nag you or weigh you down. You were created good, and you are treasured by God so you have much value.

At its best, guilt could lead you to repentance, which needs to be expressed. One way of doing this is by the practice of confession.

"Mothers, food, love, and career: the four major guilt groups."
Cathy Guisewite, cartoonist of "Cathy"

You're allowed to feel guilty enough to check the dictionary on 'guilt'. But remember to eat your vegetables.

Anger

anger [ < Old Norse angr (bitterness, sorrow) ] Definition: strong negative emotion. The adjective/adverb is 'angry'. Related words include blow up, huff, ire, miff, rage, wrath, mad, fury, p&^*#d off, resentment, dander (up), acrimony, and indignation. (As is usually true of the English language, each related word represents a slightly different form or degree of anger.) The root of 'anger' is found in anxiety, angst, angina, and perhaps even hangnail.

What Is Anger?

Anger may be directed at someone or something or some circumstance, or just a generalized grrrrr at everything. Many things cause anger and the conniptions that come from it: loss, injustice, jealousy, loss of control, lack of hope, sleeplessness, fear, chemical imbalances, and physical pain. Anger can sometimes be a good thing that shows you something's not going right. That 'not-rightness' may be from an injustice someone else is doing, or some action that's aimed at you. Your anger may be a signal that it's your time to start taking action, though it would be wise not to act while your anger still has the upper hand in you.

What To Do About Anger

You can do something about your anger in moments when you find yourself going into a rage. You can:

immediately halt whatever angry action you may already be doing;
concentrate on your breathing, by taking deep, deliberate breaths, focusing on the in and out motions of breathing. This is a good time for praying a 'breath prayer'.
choose another course of action, one that is not rooted in your anger. It may be an action that diverts or vents the anger (like using your fist on a table instead of a face). A better choice, when it's available, is to take an action which reaches out to resolve the matter.

This re-establishes self-control. Gentleness may have to wait for another time.

Though you will be angry at times, the apostle Paul said not to let the sun go down on your anger. You can:

turn it over to God, so that by the Spirit's power the anger can relax its grip on you;
seek reconciliation and/or forgiveness with those you've been angry at; and
seek out why you're having an angry reaction, so you can heal it within yourself.

That way, anger doesn't feed on itself to rob your joy and that of those around you.

If you have depression-related anger or are in a especially stressful time, you may find it helpful to take depression medication, do some form of yoga or controlled body movement, and (most important) establish a regular pattern of exercise. If anger is a common part of your life, you need to address it for your own good and for those around you.

Don't get mad. There's more on anger in the dictionary.

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